I don’t know where to start in explaining how much I loved this book and how much I resonated with the theories… but Mark Manson himself describes this book as “a guide to suffering and how to do it better, more meaningfully, with more compassion and more humility” and I think it’s spot on. I found this book quotable, meaningful, thought-provoking and it tells it exactly how it is – no sugar coating.
From discussing how to embrace pain, to taking responsibility for your life, to accepting our death in order to truly live our lives, there is so much valuable insight amongst these pages, and it really got me questioning my own thought process and the way I live my life – because we all have progress to make, much of which is hidden in our subconscious.
I’d like to share a few of my favourite quotes from the book that really got me thinking and that might provide some interesting thinking time or discussions for you too:
“The more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place.”
“We shouldn’t always trust our emotions… we should make a habit of questioning them.”
“As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them.”
“We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.”
“The only way to solve our problems is to first admit that our actions and beliefs up to this point have been wrong and are not working. This openness to being wrong must exist for any real change or growth to take place.”
“If it feels like it’s you versus the world, chances are it’s really just you versus yourself.”
“We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at. If we’re unwilling to fail, then we’re unwilling to succeed.”
“Our proudest achievements come in the face of the greatest adversity.”
“Life is about not knowing and then doing something anyway. All of life is like this.”
“Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.”
I will definitely be re-reading this book whenever I feel stuck in life, whenever I feel I need a helping hand making a change, whenever I feel like I’m falling or losing my sense of direction. And I’d recommend it for anyone in this situation too.
Self development is more than just being positive; it’s taking responsibility and learning to handle adversity with acceptance and strength. And I believe we all have the potential to do that – this book is definitely a start in reminding us that we can, every single one of us, and it acts as a brutally honest but supportive helping hand.
Have you read this book? Or did a particular quote from above speak to you?
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.