Celebrities are Allowed to be Upset [Rant]

Over the last few days, I keep seeing posts around social media about a particular celebrity crying over the coronavirus and everyone telling them they need to get a grip because they have all the money in the world and I just want to say –

No. That’s not how it works.

Just because you have money doesn’t mean you’re intrinsically happy. Just because you have privileges someone else doesn’t, doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to suffer.

Yes, celebrities are not on the same scale as other people. They can use that money to help themselves if they choose to – therapy, exercise classes, etc. but none of this makes them immune to human emotion. You can be rich but feel alone. You can be rich but feel like you don’t deserve anything around you. There’s no rule that says money solves all your problems – it may solve your external problems, but it certainly doesn’t solve your internal.

So, I just think it’s ridiculous that people are making someone feel bad for feeling bad. How does that help anyone?

The act of someone putting their sadness on social media is another matter in itself – to some it’s attention seeking and to others it’s just someone being real with their followers. But either way, if the emotion is real, it shouldn’t matter what background that person has. At the end of the day, it’s a sad person. And if you didn’t know someone’s background and you heard they were sad, surely you’d want to help them, not hurt them.

I’m not quite sure how people will respond to this, but I just think it’s a very interesting topic, one that I feel strongly about, so I had to share my thoughts.

Feel free to share your thoughts too below. But remember to be kind!

How to Increase Productivity When Working/Studying From Home

As you all know, a lot of us are now working from home, whether that’s a job, university studying or schooling. It’s difficult adapting to these new circumstances and sometimes it’s hard to get into a routine.

I’ve decided to share some tips that will (hopefully) help those of you in lockdown to be more productive when working from home, but I hope it will be helpful not just in the present moment, but for anyone in the future too, such as for students and freelancers.

 

Set yourself daily goals

This is something that I actually incorporated into my daily routine at the start of this year. Whilst I have a calendar hanging on my wall with my events etc. for the day, I use a diary too – but instead of using it only for events, I write down everything I plan to do that day.

For example, a few days ago I wrote:

  • Do a few hours of work in the morning
  • Complete more of google garage course
  • Tea & a book in the sun
  • Yoga 6pm
  • Watch an episode of TV I love

I write down this list as soon as I wake up. It sets me up with my intentions for the day and helps me stay on track, rather than waste time lying in bed or deciding what I should do next.

It is also nice to write positive messages to yourself if one of your goals for the day is something that is worrying you.

For example, a month ago I wrote:

  • children’s literature seminar – I have my group presentation – I’m going to be calm, speak slowly, take a breath, and it will be great.

It helps a lot with confidence and placing trust in yourself!

Setting goals is also a great way of reminding yourself not to forget self-care!

For example, write down:

  • Take a 15 minute break to meditate
  • Watch an episode of TV with a cup of tea, away from my phone
  • Read a chapter of my book

You’re much more likely to follow it if you write it down!

 

Allocate a work/study space

It can be helpful to allocate a certain space in your home to do work, so that your mind will associate it with productivity. This means that, as comfortable as it is, working in your bed is probably not the best idea. It will only leave your mind alert and wired when it comes to falling asleep.

A desk is often the best place to work – it encourages you to sit upright and you have a lot of space to put laptops, hot drinks, papers, pens, etc. If possible, use a different room to your bedroom.

 

Turn your phone off (or put it on airplane mode)

Assuming you don’t need your phone for your job, this is a great way to minimise distractions and focus on the task at hand.

How many times have you finished one task, decided to check your phone, and ended up wasting time on it for another fifteen, twenty, thirty minutes? Instead, you could have taken a short break to get a drink or snack and started on the next task.

As much as we like to think we can multitask (and when it comes down to it, we can), it drains your energy much faster than you think. If you want to make it through the day efficiently, ditch the phone and get your tasks done before you scroll through social media.

 

Get some fresh air

Sometimes it can feel very stuffy and warm when inside for long periods of time, so getting some fresh air can reawaken your mind. This is as simple as opening the back door into your garden to stand outside for five minutes, or even just opening a window and sticking your head out like a dog in a car.

Basking in nature is also really helpful for boosting your mental health, so if you can open a window or door onto nature, that’s even better.

 

Exercise

When you’re stuck inside, it can become so easy to spend all day sat at a desk, but this is not ideal for your posture or your health! Try to get a bit of exercise into your routine if you can.

For example:

  • Get up every half an hour to do some stretches
  • Walk around when you’re taking a call
  • Do a 15 minute workout (there’s lots of youtube videos on this!)
  • Put on some music and dance to your favourite song!

This increases your energy level and therefore productivity.

 

Look after your wellbeing

We are all social beings at heart, whether we’re extrovert or not, so spending long periods of time working at home, with no social interaction, can make you go a little crazy.

Here are a few examples of ways you can look after yourself:

  • Reach out to your family and friends and give them call
  • Give yourself a break, whether that’s sitting with a cup of tea for ten minutes, or doing a meditation exercise
  • Make sure you’re doing one thing you really love every single day, whether that’s reading, watching a film, cooking, or pursuing any hobby – this gives your day meaning
  • Distance yourself from drama, world news or social media – these can get inside your head without you even realising

Increasing your overall wellbeing will not only help you to feel happier, but it will also increase your motivation to get work done.

 

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I hope these tips are useful for anyone struggling to find the motivation to work.

Let me know if you have any tips of your own!

You can find me on social media here:

Instagram: @mymindspeaksaloud

Twitter: @mindspeaksaloud

5 Things I’m Grateful For This March (2020)

Here’s my monthly reflection on gratitude!

 

Meditation

A few weeks ago, I went to my first ever meditation workshop! I’ve meditated before – I sometimes use the apps Headspace, Calm and Insight Timer to help with this – but I’d never actually been to a class on it. It was a really insightful experience – it was nice being in a room with others who had a similar outlook. We did a variety of different meditations, such as chanting, body scan, focusing on the ends of each inhale and exhale, and looking at the seven chakras of the body. This session, as well as a podcast I listened to by Dr Chatterjee, got me thinking a lot about my breath and how I can work on decreasing stress through learning to breathe more deeply and slowly. I’m grateful for these experiences and resources that encourage me to make positive changes in my own life.

 

The ability to help others

As I mentioned earlier this week, in this blog post, I have recently created an email newsletter called the Weekly Wellbeing Challenge. Every Monday, I am sending out a simple challenge, to those that have signed up, for them to focus on for the week. Each challenge will promote wellbeing and productivity and it’s ultimately a fun way to try new things too! I’m hoping it will help everybody that is self-isolating, me included. I’m really grateful for sites such as Mailchimp that make creating this newsletter accessible and for everyone who has signed up, because this project makes me really happy and it’s nice to know that people are willing to support it and join in too.

If you’re interested in joining, here’s the link: http://eepurl.com/gW_SHz

 

Independent cafes

This month, before the pandemic hit, I was exploring Norwich and finding some really nice independent cafes to sit in and read a book! It was a nice way of changing up my scenery and taking a break away from studying. Unfortunately, due to recent events, all these cafes, along with many other places, have had to shut. It makes me sad because it is the independent cafes that will lose out most and I can’t imagine a world without them. It’s made me even more grateful for the joy they brought me earlier this month and I’m glad I got the chance to enjoy them before I moved back home to my family.

 

The Simple Things

As I’ve just mentioned, the pandemic has caused a lot of people to rethink the way they’re living their life. It has forced us to consider what our basic needs are, stripped back from materialism and unnecessary obsessions. It’s made me realise that, when it comes down to it, we can live on very little. We don’t need to have everything to live. I feel grateful to even have a house to live in, a family of support, electricity and technology. We are very fortunate – staying inside is nothing in comparison to those that had to fight in a war hundreds of years ago. We must remember this.

 

My university experience

Alongside many others, I am one of the students who has been stripped of their final moments of university due to the coronavirus. What I thought was going to be another month of last seminars, last yoga sessions, last band concerts and final goodbyes is now replaced with self-isolation, and it’s kind of surreal to think it is all over. Whilst it makes me sad to think that I have left the city of Norwich and all the memories within it behind sooner than I expected (or was prepared for), I’m very appreciative of my time there in the first place. It’s been a crazy three years but I’m so grateful to have lived them.

 

March has started and ended on two completely different notes and there’s no denying it’s overwhelming, but all we can do is focus on the present moment and try not to think too much about the future. Now, more than ever, is a good time to practice gratitude and remind yourself of all the great things that do still exist in your life. I will be continuing with this series, whatever happens over the next few months, and if you’d like to take part too, feel free to post on your blogs.

 

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What are you grateful for this month?

Let me know in the comments!

You can find me on social media here:

Instagram: @mymindspeaksaloud

Twitter: @mindspeaksaloud

 

Join Me for the Weekly Wellbeing Challenge!

I have started up a little project called the Weekly Wellbeing Challenge!

I thought it would be a fun way of increasing wellbeing and productivity, especially since a lot of us are self-isolating at this time.

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What does it involve?

  • A simple challenge sent to your inbox every Monday (max 15 minutes)
  • e.g. exercises, gratitude, connecting with others, phone detox, and more!
  • I will be taking part in the challenges too! (and sharing my experiences, insights, etc.)

 

It will be a fun way of making small but beneficial changes to our lives, knowing we are not doing it alone!

I am so excited to get this started and would love to get as many people involved as possible!

If you’d like to join, the sign up link is here: http://eepurl.com/gW_SHz

Please pass on the message to anyone who you think would be interested!